I'm just going to flat out say it: crystals produce little to no lasting healing effects on their own. It takes two to tango, and our mindset is the second half to this partnership.
The old saying, "know thyself", feels cliche but then again all cliche sayings become that way for a reason. It's true. In my spiritual practice, there has been no greater tool than exploring my own psychology and beliefs, and it's this practice that lays the foundation for a healing relationship with crystals.
I'll say this flat out: crystals will produce little to no lasting healing effects by themselves. You can't simply wear a rose quartz necklace and expect to feel unconditional love at all times. Even though this stone promotes and supports unconditional love, it can't override the things in your life that don't resonate with this love, like your feelings of unworthiness or trauma from a recent heartbreak.
It just can't and I'll tell you why.
There is this psychological term called cognitive biases, and traditionally these biases have been viewed in a negative light, as being tricks of the mind, as formally being defined as "errors in thinking". I beg to differ. I think cognitive biases are amazing examples of just what our minds are capable of, and the cognitive biases I am about to describe to you are shining examples of how your psychology is at the root of your experiences in life, and how this is a good thing. Once you understand this, then it's easy to partner with crystals to enhance your own growth and healing, and it's a lot more meaningful.
The Placebo Effect
Probably the most commonly referenced cognitive bias, you have most likely heard this term in association with medical testing and research. The Placebo Effect is the phenomenon of an individual believing they are being treated for an ailment even though they aren't (that's the placebo), yet they still experience the healing effects. This term is so common in the medical field because double-blind studies are often conducted to test the effects of new medication. In a double-blind study, the participants are all given one of two pills: the medication being tested, and a placebo pill (sugar pill). The point of this is to see if the medication being tested has measurable results compared to the placebo group. An interesting (and amazing) trend amongst these double-blind studies is that the placebo group that received no medication will still show improvement and healing. The only explanation for this is that the participants believed they were being treated for an ailment, and so their bodies responded in kind.
Though outwardly unbelievable, this cognitive bias is proof that when we believe that we are healing, we heal. With this term, I introduce you to the importance of belief when it comes to growth and change. If you don't believe that something is going to work, then you have quite a hurtle to overcome for it to work— mostly because you are standing in your own way. Contrary, if you believe that it is going to work, then you're half way there.
Looking at another angle of belief, self-fulfilling prophecy is a cognitive bias defined as someone acting in accordance to a belief they have, and so therefore it comes true. I'll use myself and my business as an example here. I have this crazy dream of owning my own successful handmade jewelry business, and creating jewelry that ultimately helps my customers embody more of the person they desire to be by using crystals. Let's just say that even though I have this dream, I don't really believe that it can come true. I might tell myself, "yea Danielle, go ahead and keep dreaming...but don't get your hopes up." Because I have this belief, I might not try that hard, I might not take it seriously, and I might not treat it like a real job. I might get tired from my day job and so I give myself a pass when working on my business after hours because it ain't happenin' anyways, so what's the point? Even though I own my own business and I'm "trying" to make it happen, my actions stem from a place of belief that this isn't actually going to work and so therefore it doesn't work— and not because it couldn't work but because I wouldn't work.
Of course, this is a hypothetical scenario ;) and truly I believe that I can kick butt at this, that I am meant to do this, and that I can't fail. Can you imagine what actions come from believing things like that? Apply said scenario to your own dreams, and curiously note what comes up.
All or Nothing Thinking
My final example of cognitive biases plays off of the fact that our brains spend just as much time predicting what is going to happen than it does taking in sensory information. We are designed this way. It's a survival mechanism. If we weren't able to predict what was going to happen based on what was going on around us, then our reflexes wouldn't be fast enough to escape things like threats or dangerous situations. If we aren't careful though, our predicting nature can actually inhibit us. All or nothing thinking is the act of predicting that because one thing happened, then by association all other events like this thing will be or happen the same. I think this bias has a lot to do with failure in particular. Often times, when we fail at something, it's difficult for us to imagine a scenario where we don't fail at that thing again. Because we as humans don't like failure, we just don't try again and because we don't try again, we miss out on the very real (and probable) experience of succeeding at that thing. Likewise, all or nothing thinking can apply to how we feel about others. We might classify everyone who has a common trait in the same group. We might like them all. We might not like them all. We decide this with prediction. Our brain has to work less by categorizing something as "known information" than it does when we categorize something as "unknown information".
When something is unknown to us, it takes us time to explore and analyze what is really going on and to make an judgement about it. It's much simpler to simply categorize it as "don't like" and move on. It makes sense why our brains do this, but by doing this we self-sabotage the real reality of a situation which is anything can happen. When we live in a world where anything can happen and we stop predicting what will happen, then we allow so many more avenues and doors to open up to us.
So Why Do We Care About Cognitive Biases and Belief?
Why did I just take the time to talk about these three cognitive biases, and how the heck does it relate to crystals? Well, hopefully by now I've illuminated just a fraction of how our beliefs can define our experiences, even defy what we know about physics, and you have beliefs about almost everything in life. You have beliefs about what you deserve, what others deserve, about how hard you have to work in life, about what's possible, if you will ever be wealthy, if you will ever be healthy...if you're actually going to stick to your new workout regime. Just about everything.
And here I circle back around to know thyself. It's so important for healing and growth that you spend time exploring yourself. What is it you believe? For once you are aware of your beliefs, you have the glorious power to change them. And that is pure magic. Can you imagine a self-fulfilling prophecy where you believe that you can accomplish your dreams? Can you imagine the placebo effect taking place when you actually believe you can heal yourself? Can you imagine a reality where you allow anything to happen rather than predicting what will happen?
You can adopt new beliefs that in turn create your reality and this is where crystals come in to support. When we are on our way to choosing a new belief and letting go of an old one, it changes our frequency. It literally changes our biochemistry. It will feel different in our bodies. You'll do things differently, you'll react to things differently, and it's this transition that can be difficult. It's easy to go back to what is familiar to us, to go back to what we already know. Maintaining a new state of being isn't the easier option, it's the more difficult one.
Because crystals have a high degree of syntropy on a physical level, they emit a very stable and consistent frequency. We humans, on the other hand, have what is called entropy or a high state of disorder. This means it takes work to maintain internal order. We feel this. We feel it when we have a bad day. We feel it when we are triggered. We feel it when we are trying to embody a new state of being. We can feel unstable in this. Having a crystal in our space helps us here. It's stable frequency influences our inconsistent and weaker frequency to stabilize it. When we pair this with a defined and motivated intention, then real growth and progress can be made.
So unfortunately a crystal can't fix a broken heart by itself, or suddenly instill you with the patience you wish you always had. No, it also takes you desiring this change and choosing to embody a new state. And this practice of uncovering your beliefs, choosing new ones, and maintaining a higher state of existing is healing. There is massive growth with this process, and its much more meaningful than simply wearing a crystal in hopes that it will help you. In the end, it is my belief that we heal ourselves just as the placebo affect has shown is possible. Crystals are here to support.
Now, if you're wondering how you can trick yourself into believing in something that you don't actually believe in (i.e. your dreams really can come true) then tune in for my next blog!